I've been doing a lot of work on change. Not changing myself as I am stuck here. But with people who want to change and think they can achieve it in a weekend retreat or by way of a book of positive affirmations or some such. If I am put on the spot I tell them this:
You won't effect the change you seek by:
1 Reading self help books
2 Changing your diet
3 Changing your name
4 Giving up anything
5 Changing your partner, job or location
6 Exercising
7 Travelling
8 Participating in alternative therapies
9 Having a child
10 Thinking
You still won't effect the change you seek by doing the following, but do it anyway ...
1 Use the time you are saving by doing none of the above to sit quietly with yourself for 20 minutes before the day really begins, and again for 20 minutes as the day closes. Focus on a candle if it helps. Set an alarm if it helps.
You may not change, but the world will.
perhaps it's not change we seek at all but recognition, understanding. if we could have that!
ReplyDeletethat is where i struggle, even there, at the mirror. so many layers to one self. which layer tells the truth? i believe there is more than one truth. every voice is true in one regard or another. and so what then?
sit, you would say. listen.
yes.
xo
erin